Is there any real parenting in “grandparenting?”

As a grandparent, what is expected concerning your care of your grandchildren? 

How are you handling holidays and family events each year?

Do you give money and gifts to your adult children with strings attached?

How do you show respect, and give space, to your adult child’s marriage and family?

How are you relating to your adult child’s spouse?  Do you see him or her as your adult child too, or something less?

Are your married, adult children still your children?  Do you have an adult-to- adult relationship with them?

Has your married, adult child really left you?  Can an adult child who doesn’t leave actually cleave to a spouse?